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The Modern Day Farm”her”

October 5, 2015 · In: family, homesteading, motherhood, womanhood

Over the past 10 years, and more so in recent years, the face of farming has changed drastically. While it has changed in ways of gmo vs. non-gmo, it has also changed in relational, age and “gender” ways. The average Virginia farmer is now 68 years old, and unfortunately his grand-children aren’t necessarily trying to fill his shoes quickly. But there is an increasing amount of farmers rising up, and not the kind you’d expect.

Today’s farmers are small families or couples trying to make ends meet, but more-so, trying to leave a better world their children. It’s not just that, though. The new face of farming is no longer men, but women — pioneers leading the way to a new and improved farming history. 

Through out history, the woman’s “place” was inside the home, helping her farming husband by preparing meals, taking care of small livestock, weeding the garden, and tending to the household. It was, by no means, an easy task. She didn’t have the luxuries that we have now, such as a washing machine and dryer. But she did her job and did it well. Certainly, she would help him around the farm if he needed her, but her ultimate goal was to raise a family and tend to her house.

The woman’s place on the farm has changed dramatically since then. In fact, sometimes, there’s only the woman running the farm, without a man involved at all. She is, what we like to call in the homesteading world, a modern day farm”her”. I am privileged to know some of these women, and while they will all tell you that it presents its challenges, for the most part, they wouldn’t change it for anything.
There are 564 million women working in agriculture all across the world — 8% of women are farmers, and 11% of men are farmers. We’ve almost caught up to them! In the more “in need of” places of the world,  43% of agricultural labor force in developing countries is female.
I have been asked the question, “why do you always post homestead things when your husband is the one who does the work?” And I laugh. My husband actually doesn’t do a single thing with our animals. He does build things (hutches, coop, etc), but never has daily interaction with the animals. In fact, how insulting of someone to ask that question. I’ve been asked questions like, “why doesn’t your husband help more often?” Why is it such a crazy thing to think that I want to do this!? Other times, I am scrutinized, talked about, and I have even had someone say I must live in my own little world or must be trying to prove something. Are you kidding me?!
 
These silly remarks come from women competing with other women. I’m not sure why we like doing that, but it needs to stop. It comes from women not understanding that not everyone’s lives have to look the same. It comes from men thinking women are “feminists”. I am far from a feminist. Women wanting to be farmers doesn’t stem from rebellion or wanting to act better than anyone (especially not men), in fact, it’s the complete opposite.
And so the question arises,
 
Why are women stepping up and becoming the farmers and homestead”hers”, instead of their male counterparts? 

Here are a few reasons why you are seeing modern day women rising up all across the world.

• Women are more passionate about it.

Yes, we are, in some ways, more passionate about it than men. Men think logically, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But they are thinking “business”. They are still, essentially, the “bread winners” in the U.S.A. They don’t want to take the risk of dropping their paying job for a job that might not make half of what they are making each year at their secure job. But for women, it’s not always about the money, it’s about the passion. Darn those emotions, taking over our logic once again.

We, women, see a need and we want to fix it. There is a longing in our hearts for a more simple time, and this is just one more way for us to make that time a reality in our lives. Not just that, however. We want to leave a better world for our children. We want our children to know what work is, where food comes from, and how to properly farm and raise animals. It’s not just about money to us, because Lord knows, there’s not much of that in small farming.

In a recent article, it said the same,

“The differences between men and women extend definitively to their opinions on farm animals. Polls across the United States and Europe show that women are more concerned about farm animals than men, and are more likely to favor better treatment for them and to support increased protective legislation.” The Atlantic; Agriculture Needs More Women.

• Women embrace their womanhood and the pull to nurture life.

I don’t even have to explain this one. God created women with a heart to nurture and care for things. With so many commercial farms popping up, it just makes us want to nurture and care for things all the more!

• Women feel they are just as capable as men, in many ways.

I know I’m not as strong as my husband, which is why he builds things when I need them and lifts the extremely heavy things (or helps me with them). But there is always one thing my husband has told me. He has always said, “I want you to learn from me, or learn how to do things on your own, so that if I’m not here one day, you won’t have to depend on another man to do things for you.”

Some women might scoff at that and call him selfish, but my goodness, how unselfish could he be. It couldn’t be a more caring statement. He has taught me to do things I would have never imagined I would do. And my body is capable of doing things I wasn’t once capable of doing. In many ways, women can still be inferior to men with their physical capabilities, it’s just how we were created. But when given the proper tools and strength training, we can get the job done.

• Women have a drive to be more self-sufficient.

I don’t know where the drive comes from, but in many cases, women farmer’s say they feel more motivated to live a self-sufficient lifestyle than men do. This drive causes women to take on farming or homesteading. We seem to care more about our food and land than men do in today’s society.

• Men are no longer expected to be farmers.

In the United States, men are no longer expected to provide for their families. And if they are, they are forced to believe that they should be Doctors and Lawyers, or big office money makers. We have been so far down the “women are just as good as men” path that becoming farmers truly is easy for women to be. The unfortunate part of that is that many men (and society, in general) aren’t supportive of women farmers. Whether it’s a sexist issue or simply a logical issue of “we don’t need farmers”, they simply just don’t support it. It is seen as being “feminist” or “trying to do the mans job”. And that’s just not true. Equality in the U.S. is skyrocketing — why shouldn’t women be farmers if the men don’t “man up”? Is it crazy to think that we actually enjoy what we do?!

• Women have “more time” to farm and homestead — but it can be a necessity as well.

It’s true, and yet it’s not. For me, as a work at home mom, it only makes sense for me to be the one farming and homesteading. Not that I have more time on my hands, but I’m here all day long and can get chores done through out the day. It is also true that women would make more time for farming, because, as point #1 says, we’re more passionate about it.

In more deprived countries, women are farming because it’s a necessity. Their men are either working constantly to make ends meet (because let’s face it, they don’t make enough on farming to make ends meet), or they are no where to be found, and it’s up to the woman to provide food for her family while selling what is leftover. A woman farmer is a necessity, not just a passion, as we have in the United States.

In the U.S., women might farm and homestead to make ends meet in their household. Meat rabbits, gardening and canning, and raising livestock for your family might not bring in money, but it might save you money, if you are raising for your own consumption of grass-fed, all natural, organic meat and produce.

• Women are supported by their husbands, and work alongside them.

I feel like I’ve already said this, but it is a point in and of itself. Many women farmers have become farmers because their husbands are farmers. They help. They don’t just sit back and let him do all of the work. Their passion and love for the skill, and for their husband, drive them to be just as good of a farmer as he is. Husbands and wives share their love together. Women plow fields and mow hay. We clean coops and process livestock. We sit up at night while new babies are being born and our husbands rest from a long day. Women farm. Not by ourselves, but alongside our husbands. We are farmers with our husbands, not just by ourselves. We are his help mate, his soul mate, his right hand wo”man”.

© Audra Mulkern | www.femalefarmerproject.org

Whatever it may be, the reality is that women farmers are becoming more and more prevalent in our world. It is not something to be shamed or slandered. It is something to be embraced. In ten years, our world population will have increased significantly. Who’s going to feed all of those people? It doesn’t matter whether a man farmed it or a woman harvested it — as long as the job gets done.

I encourage you to support your local farmer, whether male or female, or both. They encounter the same obstacles throughout their passion, and need encouragement to get the job done.

If you’re a small-scale farm”her” or homestead”her”, then I encourage you to keep doing what you’re doing. Whether you realize it or not, your pioneering has broken through that stereotype that women can’t provide for their families. The Proverbs 31 woman certainly didn’t sit back and let the men do all of the work. She was tending to her household and working in the fields to help feed her family. You are a modern day Proverbs Woman — own it, girl!

By: Amy K. Fewell · In: family, homesteading, motherhood, womanhood · Tagged: farmer, farmher, women homesteaders

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Sometimes you’ll hear people say “I have good frie Sometimes you’ll hear people say “I have good friends”. But recently I have found myself saying “I have steadfast friends”. 

The definition of someone who is steadfast means to be resolutely firm, loyal, and unwavering in your beliefs, actions, or loyalty. A steadfast person is reliable, stays focused on their purpose, and refuses to give up or change their mind, even when faced with difficult circumstances.

To be a steadfast friend means you have a mission and purpose, and you don’t waver from it. That purpose is the kingdom of Yahweh. 

For the last 5 to 10 years I have had a fluid group of friends. Some come and some go. But there is a core group that has remained through it all. The enemy has tried to divide and conquer. And sometimes we still have to realize this. But yet, here we are…steadfast. 

Sometimes we pick at each other, get mad at each other, assume or think wrongly. Sometimes we don’t talk for a week. Sometimes we talk everyday. But here’s the truth, and I think I can say it with full confidence….

We love one another enough to praise each other when it is due, and to correct each other when it is due. To push each other to the next level, and to tell each other when to sit down and be silent. Without getting offended and storming off to find a new friend group. 

It is incredibly rare, I am discovering, to see this in action. There is something beautiful about friends that see you at your worst and choose to be steadfast. No worldly judgement. When I’m lacking, they have abundance. When they are lacking, I have abundance. When they are crying, I can be strong. When I am crying, they can be strong (and some will cry with me 😆). 

1 Cor 15:58 says “Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.”

How committed are you to other people? Because the kingdom is about kinship, not friend hopping. It’s about kindred spirits, not emotional highs and lows to please the flesh. 

Don’t just find good friends—find steadfast friends. And more importantly…be a steadfast friend.
If you’re trying to grow a garden while raising ba If you’re trying to grow a garden while raising babies, chasing toddlers, homeschooling, cooking meals, and keeping a home—you don’t need perfection. You need rhythms that work with your season of life.

Here are a few simple things that make gardening with little ones so much easier:

• Work the garden in the early morning or evening when the heat and sun are lower. It’s easier on your body, your plants, and your children.

• Harvest herbs and vegetables in the morning when they are most hydrated and nutrient dense. The flavor, oils, and freshness are often at their peak before the heat of the day sets in.

• Keep a kiddie pool, shaded tent, or simple play area near the garden so little ones can stay close, play safely, and still be part of what you’re building.

This is the beauty of homestead life. Children don’t always have to be separated from the work—they can grow alongside it.

The garden doesn’t just feed your family.
It disciples them too.
Three weeks ago during our Friday night fellowship Three weeks ago during our Friday night fellowship, a consistent topic or word would come forth out of the individuals sitting around the table. As I sat and listened to each one so deeply, yet differently sharing, I realized that on this night, we were all mostly saying the same thing. This is often how Jesus will work through a group of believers—bringing each one together to share in unity. But differently. 

I immediately recalled Psalm 126–especially the part about weeping. How we sow with our tears but we reap in joy. How those who continually go forth weeping bear seed for sowing. 

Our genuine cries do something—they produce, and they sow. It is where we can feel the burden of another. When one cries, it is contagious. But really it is the mercy of God that we feel upon us. 

There is not a fellowship night that goes by anymore without someone, or multiple people now, crying. We’ve learned to embrace it. Why? Because we reap a harvest and bring our sheaves with us as we rejoice. 

Each tear is a seed that sows deeply into one another. Into others. Into ourselves. Our tears have a genuineness that many things do not have. And when they are genuine, they produce great fruit.

Ever since that night, I continue to see this scripture being spoken over and over again from leader after leader. Post after post. 

The Lord is stirring. He is doing something in His bride. He is calling back the captives, the dreamers, the singers. “Once again,” He says. With tears and weeping we sow, and with tears and weeping we harvest—rejoicing joyfully.
If you follow people online, you often call them a If you follow people online, you often call them an “influencer”. Let me be the one to tell you that most of us in the sphere that I am in do not consider ourselves “influencers”. Some may consider themselves teachers, leaders, ministers, and more, but the term influencer has never been something we’ve enjoyed. 

The reality is this—we found ourselves in the middle of a crossroad on our timeline where someone needed to pick up a mic and speak truth in the midst of chaos. Most of us have no interest in being online at all. We wouldn’t be sad if the internet disappeared tomorrow. But we were handed that microphone, influence, and anointing to go along with it.

Don’t be fooled—it’s not because of algorithms and marketing plans. If you are succeeding in this online world or your physical sphere of influence for Jesus, it’s because you were given the open door to do so. It’s not about you. It’s about what God knows He can entrust to you for His will and kingdom. 

Some people chase after people, trends, validation, recognition, and the spotlight. But can I tell you what comes along with those things? Hatred, bullying, misunderstanding, monitoring people and spirits, people lying about you, persecution—and if you’ve really made it, threats on your life and persecution.

You see, people want the influence. People want to be close to a Kingdom influencer. But if you aren’t ready to roll with the good AND bad, then you’re not ready. 

Jesus was the OG influencer, and He was spit on, lied about, and killed for His influence. Follower of Jesus—you are told to prepare for the same thing in the world. No matter your influence level.

A time is coming in America where influence online won’t matter anymore, yet the outcome will remain the same. The time to prepare for that is now—spiritually and emotionally. 

But take heart, dear one. He has overcome the world. I speak to believers and leaders everyday who are truly influencing to make a difference—some online, some never touching a screen. 

Jesus is building His church stone by stone. Some of us have mics, some of us will never be broadly known to man. Yet the struggle is still the same. Pray for us.
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My hormones have been all over the place as I inch closer to 40 and begin to slowly wean our little one. I’ve been snappy and know I need more nourishment. My skin has been out of sorts and, moral of the story, my body needs help. This tea is great for anyone—but it is especially healing for women. 

The jar made in the reel is a concentrate (I used lots of herbs), meaning, I add about 1 cup or more (whatever you’d like) of this liquid concentrate to my pint/quart jar and fill the rest with ice and cold water. But the “amounts” would stay the same in “parts”. 

If I were to add one more thing to this tea, it would be lemon balm. It is also very calming and aromatic. But since lemon balm is growing fresh right now, I add a sprig of it to each glass made with this herbal concentrate when I pour. 

This blend is fabulously cooling, nourishing to the body, and especially beneficial to women of all ages. 

You can add raw honey to sweeten this tea, and it is divine. 

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